Sunday, June 7, 2009

Grades vs. Gifts :P

"You know, you shouldn't relate good grades with presents!" said the little girl to her brother (which I dont know who is elder..) and the mom and dad totally agree to her saying leaving the son defending himself with his own reasons... :P
I met these 2 kids at the KLCC lrt station with their parents after shopping and the son was bugging the mom (actually making deals) on buying Lego's for him if he get good grades for his exam later on... Lucky kids...

At the same time, it reminds me of my childhood -- how hard me and my sister studied to score good grades or as what they said, flying colors... and guess what, we did... I still remembered that when I was small, Primary One to be exact, for the first mid-term exam, I got #12 in the class of 30 (which I consider is good enough :P). Went home showed my dad the report card and you know what I get? I got a slapped on the face in front of my uncle who dropped by to visit the family -- I was so embarrassed!!! From that moment on I studied so hard for every exam -- maybe because of the embarrassment and pain I got from dad :(

Then in the final year for Primary One, I got #4 in the class... pheww.... a sense of relief....
Worked harder and studied smarter, from Primary 2 onwards till Primary 6, my results were maintained at either #1 or #2 position in the class and the entire batch untill I scored 5 As (straight As) for my UPSR...

Come to think of it -- the motivation behind all these grades of mine was not toys, monetary related nor vacation... The moment I saw that 2 kids at the LRT station is when I realized that I studied so hard to obtained good grades was becacuse of the hunger for attention from my dad and also the fear of him. The thing is, the smarter you are, the better grades you get, dad will love you more and pay more attention to your every needs... Why so? Because when me and my sister scored good grades, we make him proud! So when people asked him about us in school and our performances in exam, he would proudly say the girls are doing great with a big smile on his face :)

On second thought, me and my sis were actually stupid -- look at those kids now. They get whatever they want by doing good or average in school and look at what both of us get back then -- nothing!! Aiyoyo... apalah...

The truth is, kids nowadays are too much with bargains between them and parents -- you want me to make you proud? Ok, buy me this and I'll score good grades! The problem here with kids nowadays is that, they never realized what actually lies beneath those grades -- what it represents and how it could help them during their years in primary and high school. I blame this on the parents of not guiding the children properly and always promise them with gifts and money if they do well in school... Parenting 101 -- FAILED!!
When I have my own kids in the future, I would pray hard that me and my husband will be good and wise parents rather than becoming hostage to all the kids demand... :P

Today is Sunday... Kent went camping in Mount Tahan with the guys and will only be coming back on Tuesday... Missing him already. Hope he's doing fine and dont hurt himself while hiking.. Worried ler :S Haih...

Weather looks god outside, had planned to go for a jog in the park but too bad I need to update my resume (priority now!) and cant go out yet. Perhaps tomorrow... :)
Weather is good here, I wonder how is it back in Mount Tahan... Erm... hope it's not raining anymore coz Kent said it was freezing cold yesterdat night when it rained :S

Time for a quick nap! Wahahaha... Like a pig... :P

Love,
Shin :P

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